Pregnant and Contemplating Adoption? How Counseling Can Help | A Child's Dream

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Becoming unexpectedly pregnant can cause you to face the toughest decisions you've ever faced. Without support, you may feel like your life is spiraling out of control.

You may assume counseling is only for those with mental illness. However, counseling can be a great resource for expectant mothers who are thinking about putting their child up for adoption. Here are five ways counseling can help you.

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6 Emotions Birth Mothers May Experience During the Adoption Process

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For adoptive parents, the process of bringing a new child into their family is primarily a happy one. For birth parents, however, the emotions experienced during the adoption process can be more complex.

Regardless of your specific situation, the adoption process can trigger a number of strong emotions because you are, in a sense, "losing" a child. When it comes to your emotions, it doesn't necessarily matter whether the pregnancy was unplanned or you are excited to place your baby with a loving adopted family. The intense emotions you experience may surprise you.

In this blog, we list six of the common emotions birth mothers may feel during this transitional period.

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Breaking the News: Tips for Telling People You're Unexpectedly Pregnant

For women who want to get pregnant, pregnancy announcements are happy and exciting. But what about women who got pregnant unexpectedly and aren't sure what to do now?

If you find yourself in this situation, you probably worry about how to tell the people around you your big news. You worry about how they might react and how your pregnancy might affect your relationship with them.

Follow these tips to make telling your loved ones a positive experience.

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Adoption Myths That Birthmothers Should Be Aware Of

awarebirthmotherIf you're considering choosing adoption for your baby, there are a lot of unknown variables that can make the experience seem especially challenging. Many birth mothers might feel shame, fear, or guilt over the decision.

However, there are a lot of myths surrounding how you might feel, what experiences you might have, and what future your baby will have. Knowing these myths and arming yourself with facts and reason can help prepare you for the adoption process. 

Connection

Myth: After adoption, you'll have no connection to your child's life.

As a birth mother, you have the power to make decisions about your child's future. It's up to you to decide what kind of connection you want to have with your child in the future. 

Some mothers choose closed adoptions with the desire to have no further contact. Some choose this option because they feel it will be too emotionally complex to stay involved. Other desire to allow their baby to fully integrate into the adoptive family.

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A Birth Mother's Decision: What to Consider When Choosing Adoptive Parents

If you're a pregnant mother considering adoption, you might feel overwhelmed with choosing a family for your baby. Some birth mothers can feel a lot of anxiety over this decision. How can you know the family will be a good fit? 

It's perfectly normal to worry that you might make the wrong choice. But as the mother of your baby, you know what type of future you want for your child, and you may have an idea of what types of families will make that future possible. Here is what you should consider when deciding on the right family for your baby. 

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